Make the People Count: A Reflection on AA and Life

When I first started going to AA meetings, I struggled just to walk through the door. The idea of sitting in a room full of strangers and opening up about my fears and insecurities felt impossible. But as time went on, I learned something vital—not to count the people in the room, but to make the people count.

At my meetings, the attendance varies. Some days, there are only two of us, and on others, it feels like half the town showed up. But the number doesn’t matter; it’s the connections that do. Whether someone has two days of sobriety or 40 years, every voice has value. At three years sober, I still consider myself a newbie, but that’s the beauty of AA—it takes all levels of experience to make the group strong and well-rounded.

One of the most powerful things about AA is the encouragement to be vulnerable. Sharing what’s on your heart is not easy; it wasn’t for me at first. But by listening to others and their recovery journeys, I felt inspired to share my own story. The kindness, support, and understanding I’ve received from others in the room have been life changing.

What I love most about AA is that everyone is welcome, no matter where they are in their journey. If someone drinks again and decides to come back, they are greeted with open arms, not judgment. I know what that’s like—after treatment at Hazelden in Minnesota, I relapsed. That relapse became my last drink, and I pray it stays that way. But I know that I can only take it one day at a time, and I try to give myself grace in the process.

If AA is something you’ve found helpful, I encourage you to keep showing up, no matter how long you’ve been sober. You might be the reason someone new feels safe enough to share their story. And if AA isn’t for you, I hope you’ve found other ways to express your emotions and frustrations, whether through journaling, therapy, or exercise.

I’d love to hear about your journey and the things that help you stay sober. On my Grit and Grace store, I’ve created a few items inspired by recovery and growth. One of my favorites is a clutch bag that says, “Stay sober, be grateful, and eat the cake,” because life’s too short not to enjoy it! There’s also a t-shirt that reads, “I need a meeting” with a hilariously grumpy cat on it—a little humor to keep things light. And my canvas wrap that says, “One day at a time, help others, buy the shoes” is a daily reminder to take life step by step and enjoy its simple joys.

Sobriety is a journey, not a destination, and it’s made better by the people who walk it with us. Whether it’s a sponsor, a fellow AA member, a counselor, or even a friend, make those connections count. And while you’re at it, don’t forget to make room for joy—whether that means savoring a slice of cake or splurging on those shoes you’ve been eyeing.

Take it one day at a time, embrace the support around you, and enjoy the life God has given you. 💕